It’s easy to focus on the negative side effects of the COVID-19 pandemic. With so much death, loss and change, many grow discouraged. As we’ve covered in several recent blog posts, much has changed in the funeral industry as a result of the Coronavirus. But rather than discussing the negative, we challenge you to consider the pandemic positives. Struggling to see them? Allow us to point the way! The pandemic has enabled you to:
Pandemic Positives: Virtually Reach Out
Most people understand that funerals are not for the deceased but the ones who were left behind. They provide an opportunity to connect people for mutual support during a time of loss. But while physically gathering together is limited due to the pandemic, (particularly in LA County, where Foothill Funeral & Cremation is located), people have begun to embrace virtual gathering. Even technophobes eagerly sign onto Zoom and Google Meets. And if you choose to hold a virtual memorial, you can invite family members and friends from around the world, rather than in your own geographic location
Hold an Instantaneous Ceremony — Those Are Pandemic Positives!
While distance used to lead to delays relative to memorial services, COVID-19 has made it possible for intimate bedside ceremonies, funerals and life celebrations. In fact, if your loved one dies today, you can hold a private ceremony for just a few close family members while the wounds remain fresh, rather than weeks later, when everyone can gather. Most spiritual leaders and funeral directors are available to lead such ceremonies. At FFC, we take steps to make sure everyone remains safe amid the pandemic.
Pandemic Positives? Opt for Multiple Memorials
Due to COVID, you could opt to host more than one service. Many of our families choose a simple, intimate affair celebrated shortly after their loved one dies. Then, once COVID-19 restrictions lift, they plan a more elaborate affair. Doing so may enable you to start the grieving process quickly rather than waiting for closure afforded by a memorial service. We store bodies until the family is ready to proceed with whatever event they choose. In fact, you might opt to initially host an online event. Then, on the anniversary of the death, you could hold an in-person event. When it comes to COVID-19, anything goes. So, purposefully choose whatever method you want for memorializing your loved one.
Dig In to Pandemic Positives
Around the world, people report feeling more isolated than ever before due to the Coronavirus. With many places still under some form of lockdown, now is a great time to collect memorabilia. Gather photos, video clips, favorite pieces of clothing and other items from your deceased loved one’s collection. These items may not only trigger warm memories but could help you go through the grieving process. When you come across an item that heralds fond memories, reach out to one of your family members or friends. You may be surprised to learn that they, too, are feeling nostalgic as they process grief. This activity produces the welcome side effect of effectively forcing you to put together the elements you’ll need when the time to host a memorial arrives.
You need and deserve the support of others during this challenging time. Others who are also mourning the death of your loved one need support as well. Whether or not you can gather physically, in person, right now, you can always reach out for support. Talk openly and honestly with people who live in your home. And don’t forget to be as empathetic as possible. You are probably not the only one in pain. So, take the opportunity to communicate with others using the telephone or video calls as a substitute for face-to-face conversations. Others take comfort in emails, texting, and social media posts. And don’t forget the power of hand-writing a letter. In whatever way you can, stay as connected as possible. The good news is that most people will appreciate the gesture, since they’re likely feeling lonely and isolated too.
About Foothill Funeral & Cremation in Glendora, California
Whether or not your loved one died of COVID-19, we realize that the pandemic may affect your ability to sufficiently celebrate a life well lived. At Foothill, we will do our best to make sure you can mourn the loss of your loved one in a safe manner. Feel free to contact us now to pre-plan your own memorial or at your time of need (626) 335-0615. Our relationship with United Methodist Church and Sacred Heart (which currently allows a maximum of 65 people) provide great places for mourners to host funerals and memorials. You’ll love the grandiose yet intimate settings in both locations.