Greeting card companies start promoting Valentine’s Day in January. And that’s all well and good if you’re involved in a romantic relationship. But what if you recently lost the one you love to death? It’s difficult to celebrate any holiday without someone special by your side. But with Valentine’s Day, the hurt compounds. Is there a way to get through this time of year without your loved one? Yes! In this blog, we address the difficult topic of Valentine’s grief.
Valentine’s Grief: Remember the One You Lost
It is important to remember the person you lost. Memory aids the healing process. Remembering the person that you lost by honoring them and keeping their memory alive. It also helps ease Valentine’s Day grief, if we focus on the love we enjoyed while they remained on Earth.
Give Yourself Permission to Experience Valentine’s Grief
It is normal to feel pain and miss your loved one. If you are feel Valentine’s Day grief, figure out ways to cope with your loss.
- Talk with others who understand what you are going through
- Take care of yourself physically and emotionally.
- Finding ways of honoring your loved one (through volunteering or giving back).
- Create new traditions as part of your healing process.
Do something different than what you would have done when your loved one was alive
- Avoid trying to repeat past traditions, which could magnify your sense of loss.
- If possible, do something with the family or friends of loved ones. If possible, try not to weather the storm alone.
- Take a long bath, light candles, and listen to music.
- Go for a walk.
- Honor your loved one’s memory by doing something in their name or in honor of them (e.g., donating money or food).
Don’t Pretend You’re Fine through Valentine’s Grief
Avoid the temptation to hide your grief athis time of year, especially people in your life fail to understand what you are experiencing. But the truth is that it’s OK to be sad or angry, or even scared–and if you feel all these things at once, that’s perfectly normal too! You deserve space and support from those around you during this time of year just as much as anyone else does.
Don’t forget to be kind to yourself and your loved ones this Valentine’s Day. You don’t have to pretend that everything is fine, and it’s okay if you feel sad or upset. Remembering what you’ve lost will always be painful, but there are ways that we can help ourselves heal and move forward in life again. If you want more information on how grief affects us as humans, check out our blog post on the topic here!
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