Eulogy Writing: Part 2

Part 2 in a 2-Part Series

When a family member or friend dies, you could be called on to deliver the eulogy, even as you struggle through profound grief. This post should help you craft the perfect eulogy, as we conclude our 2-part series about eulogy writing, by offering specific steps. Read part one by clicking here.

Eulogy Writing 101

After considering the points we make in part one of this series, it’s time to get down to brass tacks. What should you fill the empty sheet of paper with since many memories flood your mind? The good news is there is no right or wrong way to write a eulogy. The most important note is tofocus on the deceased, rather than your own nerves and concerns. If you can do that, you will be well on your way to writing a heartfelt tribute that expresses your feelings about the life you have been asked to remember and honor.

1. Cover the Basics– Before tackling the emotional stuff, focus on the nitty-gritty.
   Write down:

• Date and place of birth
• Nicknames Parents names
• Brothers and Sisters
• Early childhood – localities and interests
• Schools attended, awards gained
• Academic or trade qualifications and achievements
• Details of any war or other applicable military service
• Relevant marriages, divorces, children, significant relationships
• Vital stats about grandchildren/great grandchildren
• Club memberships, positions held, honors achieved
• Sporting achievements
• Hobbies or interests, travel, crafts, music, theater, etc.
• Items of historical significance
• Preferences, likes and dislikes
• Special stories, sayings, qualities that are significant to others
• Meaningful readings, music or poetry

Now, cross through anything that isn’t interesting. You don’t want to bore your audience with endless details. But, brainstorming helps you put ink to paper. And that’s better than staring at a blank computer screen or empty legal pad!

2. Stories & Memories

Using the vital data to spur ideas, write down stories and memories. But keep things brief. Remember the Gettysburg Address was just 272 words but is considered one of the best speeches ever given. Longer is not always better.

3. Craft a Theme for your Eulogy

As you review the statistics and memories, do you see a common thread? Go with it. Use a normal conversational vocabulary and tone. Avoid fancy or unfamiliar language. Don’t try to turn your tribute into a poem (unless you’re a poet). Instead, express your thoughts the same way you speak. You represent the sentiment of everyone at the service. So, don’t feel compelled to wow them with your intellect or snappy delivery.

4. Try it Out

There is a reason “they” say practice makes perfect. Rehearsing may feel odd. But once you’re standing in front of a packed room, you’ll be glad you took time to try it out. Hearing your eulogy aloud may alert you to inconsistencies or redundancies. If you’re feeling extra brave, ask a family member or friend to sit in, to offer suggestions. And try not to take constructive criticism personally. Remember, the whole reason you agreed to put yourself through this is because you cared about the one who died. Focus on them and you won’t go wrong.

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